A sudden random thought.

edThis post is rather random and the topic concerned is kinda stale already considering that I came across this a week ago.

Nonetheless, I am just going to post it up since I am bored anyway and it has been sucha long time since i last post. I feel a sense of responsibility towards my blog u know. (yah right :))

So anyway, I was speaking to my good friend over a cup of starbucks coffee the other day and somehow or rather, we began to talk about relationships. So he was telling me that he has this part time"girlfriend", the title as such because his status kinda alternates between one who has a girlfriend and one who doesn't.

His girlfriend is considered his girlfriend because:
1. They do normal things like a normal couple does. What they are is entirely up to ur imagination haha.
2. He feels obligated not to "date" other girls since he is with her.
3. I think he treats her very nice from what I can tell.

However, his girlfriend is also not quite considered his girlfriend because:
1. He does not have to answer to her. An example he gave was that he does not have to tell her where he is going and who he is going out with, even if she asks. On that same level, she does not have to answer to him too.
2. When she asks him if she misses him, he can answer no, but in a roundabout way. The bottomline is he can still say no. Wheras for normal couples, the boyfriend has to say yes, if not the consequences are dire haha.
3. And the most impt one is that, he told her that she is free to go out with other guys, even on a dating basis (i think) and he would not mind. In fact he says he encourages her to do so. Hmmm. Very obviously, if you are a normal dating couple, the boyfriend would NEVER ever say.

His reasons for doing so is basically just this: that it gives him enough leeway and private space given his busy time schedule and all.

And the girl doesn't mind.

Well this is all I got out of him, but it was enough for me to make my own conclusions:

1. This would never happen to me. Not in the near future and until I change my views on how the dating scene should be like.
2. I think that guys are more prone to the "I need my private space" mentality than girls. I mean, he is not the first one who face problems with their girlfriends because of this "private space and time" issue.
3. Boys and men have tons of excuses when it comes to justifying their weird actions.

So ok, I get his point about the need to have pivate time and space. To do his own things as and when he likes, not having to account to his gf everytime he has to go somewhere. To me, I feel that if you decide to treat a girl the way you treat a gf, you should be prepared to be accountable to her. From a female's perspective, not telling means you are hiding something and being the intuitive and suspicious half we are, sooner or later it is going to escalate into a quarrel. Of course, I am not saying to report to her 24/7, but it would be nice to let her know where you are going especially if she plans to go to go out with you. That is unless if you are doing something that you know she will not like but yet not morally wrong. Or something to that extent. Which brings me to my second point.

Honesty is the best policy yes, but not in the context of a relationship. Sometimes, it is better to lie than to jeopardize your relationship.When a girl misses you, just say so lah. It doesn't kill to make her happy abit. I mean more often than not, she probably just asked out of whim and it might be a subconcious thing too, for her to wanna hear you reassure her that you still love her and your relationship is still going strong. Haha, to do the thing that my friend did, which is to go in a roundabout way and tell the girl that he doesn't is suicidal. Even though he says she does not mind and she says that she is just merely asking but if she doesn't mean what she says, even ABIT, she won't bother asking I guess. UNLESS she is really doing it out of fun. But still, pacify the girl abit lahs. LIke I say, you won't lose a hair or get sick by telling her a white lie haha. Don't say you wanna stick to your morals and be honest to her. C'mon man, it is just all about making her happy wat. Why wanna make her upset just because of the "No, I do not" to that question??

And all the thing about asking her to date other guys? Hahah it just confirms that he is just having a more serious fling. ie. It is still a fling but he devotes more time and attention to the girl.

There is nothing wrong with this concept. To have a part time girlfriend definitely puts the guy in a very favourable condition. (and the girl too if she thinks the same way as the guy) But why part time? Feelings are very hard to control, for all you know, one day if the chick decides to put in her 100% in the relationship or subconsiously does so during her part time stint with you, then you jialat. So never engage in such a thing unless you are damn damn damn blardy sure as hell that the girl has the exact same opinion as you. The only way to be sure is if she has a past history of having such relationships haha.

Oh well, it was meant to be a short entry since i amd just taking a break from my books. I didn't realize that I have written so much crap haha! alritey, until next time!